Brittany is back, with an important topic-
Being Super Mom is hard. Hell, just being a regular mom is hard. Maybe not for everyone. I’m sure there are moms out there that can do everything seamlessly, with a real smile on their face without ever wanting to run and hide or cry in the shower. I’m not one of those moms. I struggle almost daily!
I know everyone has struggles at one point or another. People struggle financially, emotionally, physically, and mentally. If I’m being honest with myself (and all of you) I could say that I struggle in all of these areas. Most people probably don’t know or haven’t noticed because I hide it under a smile. But it’s true.
This is one area I’ve tried to focus on lately, so it’s not so much of a struggle. Getting all of my financial matters in order can go a long way in helping with some of the other struggles that I have. But we all know these things don’t happen overnight. It’s going to take a long time and a lot of hard work to get where I would like to be financially. I’m going to talk about that a little more in depth in my financial goals series.
I’m not really a very emotional person. I mean, I do have my moments for sure. But as far as showing my emotions or getting all worked up about things, it doesn’t really happen very often. I would much rather smile and say that I’m wonderful, than start an argument or talk about my feelings. Unless it’s something that has to do with my children’s safety or well being.
My husband gets so upset with me all the time because of this. He knows by the way I act that something is wrong but I tell him that I’m fine and move on. And I know that this isn’t a good trait. It always ends up causing massive arguments in the long run. I hold it in so long that I finally blow up.
The only person that I really talk openly with at any and all times is my momma. I know that I am not the only person that does this and again, I know that it’s not a healthy way to deal with stress and frustration. Although I have been working on being more open and communicating better, sometimes it just feels like no matter what I say, it’s either not going to make a difference, or it’s going to make things worse.
Some of the physical struggles that I go through are most definitely linked to the above mentioned aspects. That is another reason that I have been working on those. If I don’t manage those better, this will never work itself out either.
My biggest physical struggle is a tough one. My hair falls out. And I don’t mean a strand or two here and there. Normal shedding. No. I mean it comes out in handfuls. I end up with huge bald spots all over my head. It has been happening since I was in the 4th grade and I hate it. Doctors told my parents that it’s called alopecia and it’s caused by stress.
At the time, there weren’t many treatment options and I haven’t been back to a dermatologist since so I just deal with it. The bald spots eventually grow back in but then they show up in another spot. Of course, it makes me very self conscious most of the time.
I try to find a hairstyle that covers most of it and just keep my hair that way until it grows back out. But then I have little sprouts of hair sticking out everywhere. So one stressor will trigger it and then I stress about my hair and the way I look. It’s a never ending cycle!
I think that the mental struggles are one of the hardest. It’s because I do this one to myself. Some days I get in my head and just want to give up. Thinking about everything that needs to be done and all the other struggles can be overwhelming. I almost psych myself out a lot of times. I make myself think that things are impossible or everything is going to come crashing down at any minute.
I have had, what feels like, a ton of issues land right in my lap the last week or two. As a “Super” mom, it’s hard for me to talk about my struggles and my issues. I’m sure that I’m not the only person that feels this way. However I know it’s ok to admit. We are all in this together and we all go through the same things. We can succeed, struggle and fail, and know that it’s ok!
Do you have any struggles or issues that you want to get off your chest? We are here for you! Let us know in the comments!