Mother’s Day is two weeks away, and you probably don’t need me to remind you to call your Mother. Most of us are pretty good about getting together with the family for the important stuff, and well, Mother’s Day is pretty important.
But what about the rest of the year? Are you giving your parents the amount of time they deserve?
If you’ve had kids for a while, you probably realize how good it feels to have your kid’s attention. Especially by the time they’re school aged. They’ve become somewhat self-sufficient, and they can even hold conversations with you now. It’s no longer about the diapers and feedings. And it’s actually pretty fun to hang out with them most of the time.
Then, as they continue to get older and become teenagers, they start pulling away.
You can remember what you were like as a teenager. All you wanted was to be left alone. You wanted to be with your friends.
When they’re teens, you’re just not involved as much in their lives. They’re hanging with their friends before practice, or after the game. On the weekends, they’re at their friend’s house, or going out on a date. The bottom line, they may still live under your roof, but more and more of their life doesn’t involve you.
And even though you still love them as much as you did when they were younger, you may start to miss all the attention they gave you.
Unfortunately this trend continues on after they’ve finished High School. In fact, for many kids, it’s usually not until early adulthood that they start to connect with their parents again.
Of course that’s until they start to have a family of their own. You kind of hit a plateau once their family takes over.
It’s just a fact of life that we will never get as much attention from our kids as we get when they’re young. It happenned to our parents, and it will happen to us someday too. And when it does, we’ll miss their attention.
Start giving some of it back. Call your Mom or Dad periodically. Try to see them more often than once or twice a year. They’ll appreciate it.
Take Advantage of the time you have
Let’s face it, mother nature is a b#tch. Everyone wishes their parents will live a long, healthy life, but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way.
Things can change quickly. Just ask someone who’s lost a loved one to cancer. Luckily, these type of things don’t happen often, but when they do, they can happen fast.
But what if you’re too caught up the day to day of life, going long times between contact with your parents? When you have a family of your own, it’s just too easy to not have time to call your parents, or to make time to see them. You’ve got work, and kid’s sports, and everything else on your plate. Does this happen to you?
But what if something tragic happens to one of your parents? Would you have any regrets about the amount of time you spent with them in their later years?
Don’t let that happen. It doesn’t take more than a phone call every once in a while to avoid this. Check in with them from time to time. Take an interest in what they’re doing. Keep them informed on what’s going on in your life.
Think about the smile your kids put on your face when they greet you at the door. Yeah, it’s like that for your parent with you too, even now. Take advantage of the time you have, and spend some time enjoying life with them. And when nature runs it’s course, as it always does, you can feel good about making the most of what you had.
They’re always going to be your Mom and Dad
As much we don’t want to admit it, even in adulthood, we still need our parents.
Kids need family support. Adults need family support. It’s just a simple face, we all do.
When something bad happens, no matter your age, you want to tell your parents before you even tell your spouse.
Why is this? They don’t judge you, or try to fix your problems, like your spouse might.
Many parents simply lend a caring ear, and listen. They know your short comings, but they don’t care. And you know this. Sometimes you just need to feel safe sharing your feelings, and nobody is better at providing this safety than your parents.
Want to talk about your job? Maybe lean on them for some support regarding a career change? Call your parents.
I’ve done this many times myself, often leaning on my Dad for direction. Over the many years of my adult life, he has given me a ton of advice.
But it doesn’t stop there. Are you having problems with your kids? Call your parents.
Our kids are usually not that much different than we were at that age. And our parents have been through it all before. They know what worked and what didn’t work with us, and can be full of great advice for us on how to handle our own kids.
If they’re already full of unsolicited advice, then maybe you want to avoid this. But if not, leverage some of that great experience they have.
Let me say it again, call your Mom
Or your Dad, or both your Parents. The point is, you don’t have to wait until a holiday like Mother’s Day to do it, you can do it at any time. How many reasons do you need? They want to hear from you. You never know when the unexpected can happen. And they can often be your best advisor.
While you’re spending time celebrating Mother’s Day, and enjoying time with your family, make a commitment to give your parents a little more of your time this year. You’ll be glad you did.
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